It is a terrible, painful feeling - perhaps the most terrible and most painful feeling in the world - to know that you are not wanted. To be rejected, to be discarded and to be replaced - by someone you love, no less! It was never meant to be that these things should happen - they are grievous, truly, and it is perhaps one of the greatest tragedies that we, as humans, face in love and in relationship. They go against every truth that God speaks about grace, compassion, and unconditional love, and they wound us to the core.
But though they are physical realities - I know as well as anyone how deeply they cut - they are lies. And for women, perhaps the most piercing lie of all is that we are not wanted. Desired. Worthy to be fought for. Delighted in. These lies are the weapons that the Enemy uses to destroy us, from the inside out. And so, so often, we believe them.
But our God fights for us. He redeems those lies and replaces them with truth - beautiful truths! The Lord wants us to rejoice in relationship with Him, because He always wants us. We are His Beloved, and He desires us. He delights in us. Always. No matter what. No matter how crazy and emotional we are that day. No matter how much of a tendency that we have to nitpick and nag. No matter how particular or controlling we are. He is deeply, passionately in love with us, His Beloved, and it is in His love only that we will never face rejection. We will never be discarded, unwanted, replaced by something better - because to Him, we are the best thing. He fights for us. He delights in us. He loves us.
“Long ago the Lord said to Israel: ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.’” - Jeremiah 31:3